worthwhile advice

July 30th, 2010 by Kawika Heftel

The thoughts in this post were adapted from a wonderful conversation with a good friend, and seem to be universally applicable.  Thus, they shall be immortalized here.  Also, if I write these ideas down here I can come back here if I forget them.

Three things that will lead to empowerment in your life:

  1. Stop asking WHY.  Instead, change it to WHAT NOW.  Instead of unanswerable questions that pound your brain you have hope, and at least some inkling of what to do to improve your situation.
  2. Don’t expect anything from yourself.  Just ACCEPT and EMBRACE yourself for who you are.  You don’t need to become a Superman to be lovable, and besides, you will be capable of accomplishing so much more if you love yourself UNCONDITIONALLY first.
  3. Don’t you EVER put yourself down!  You live with yourself 24/7.  You wouldn’t want to live with an enemy, would you?  It’s okay to make mistakes and course-corrections.  You are a child of God, and thus have limitless potential.

To combat sadness, do the following:

Count your many blessings!!  But you must abide by the following rules:

  1. You must start with “I have been blessed with …”
  2. You must not use any negative phrases.

If you follow the rules, you get a sense that a.) you really have a lot going for you, and b.) it comes from a higher source than yourself – make sure to give credit where credit’s due!  This brings your life into balance, stops you from getting a big head and brings things into perspective.  Nothing fosters love for Deity by seeing first-hand and noticing the things that God has given you, no strings attached, “just because.”

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6 Responses to “worthwhile advice”

  1. This is wonderful advice that many people can benefit from. Wise words from wise man! Love you Kawika. Leslie

    --Leslie Cabral, on July 30th, 2010 at 8:56 am
  2. Aww, thanks, auntie Leslie! I have good friends :) . Here’s hoping I can actually live the good advice I receive!

    --kawika, on July 30th, 2010 at 11:45 am
  3. This will be a excellent blog, could you be involved in doing an interview about just how you created it? If so e-mail me!

    --Arlene Gencarelli, on June 27th, 2011 at 8:19 pm
  4. I like this phrase, “love yourself UNCONDITIONALLY.”
    I doesn’t always love myself for who I am. Sometimes I need reminder to myself to have a break, to take a look the way i live my life.
    This is a great article.

    --Amy, on August 25th, 2011 at 3:13 am
  5. Hello kawika,

    Thanks for the free advice. I did not have to hand any money over to Amazon to get your timeless advice. I especially like the part in the post where you said “Don’t you EVER put yourself down!” This applies to everyone if you want to be more and accomplish more in life. A negative attitude will leave you destitute in so many ways.

    --Samantha Bryce, on September 11th, 2011 at 11:14 am
  6. Thanks Samantha!

    --Kawika Heftel, on September 12th, 2011 at 6:47 pm

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